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A Show Of Hands, Please - Sing With Me If It's Just For Today...
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A Show Of Hands, Please
I have always hated my first name. Terry. In sixth grade, Jimmy Brandstrater discovered it rhymed with "fairy." After the first of three fist fights I've ever had in my life, luckily the "fairy" part didn't live until seventh grade. But I am still plagued by people who mistake me for a woman or who spell my name "Teri" as if I were a Garr or worse, a Hatcher. It is a bland name, one that evokes little visceral response and it's gender confusing.

At various points in my career, co-workers have taken it upon themselves to call me "T.D." I readily, even happily, have responded. There's power in those initials, less formality and the logical extension of them is, of course, Touch Down! In business, those attributes are certainly a positive.

So I wonder, as I head into a new city and a new corporate culture far removed from Hollywood, is it pretentious of me to re-name myself "T.D."? There would be nothing insistent about it. I would toss it off as, "My friends call me TD," when introduced to someone new and it would include the newcomer into a more intimate, albeit a manufactured sense of familiarity.

What better jury than you, those who have read my journal for a long time and have some sense of who I am? Is this creepy and self-loathing? Or is it acceptable?

Current Mood: pondering
Current Music: a lonesome single engine plane mixed with bird-chirping

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ruralrob From: ruralrob Date: July 8th, 2003 02:46 pm (UTC) (Link)
For a Canadian, this question raises a slight problem. For here, TD is known universally as the short name of the Toronto-Dominion Bank - one of the big four.

But if you have no problem being named after a Canadian Bank, go for it.

Personnaly, I've always though JC had a certain ring to it. BJ, on the other hand, is one to avoid . . . .
guysterrules From: guysterrules Date: July 8th, 2003 03:57 pm (UTC) (Link)
BJ, on the other hand, is one to avoid . . . .

You're right. I should not be named for something I enjoy.
among_the_stars From: among_the_stars Date: July 8th, 2003 02:54 pm (UTC) (Link)
I don't see anything wrong with it!

You know, my boyfriend did the same thing. Pratik, is a Sanskrit name... no one here can even pronounce it when they read it (it's Prah-teek) and end up saying things like Patreek or even think its Patrick, misspelled. He also read an article that said you are less likely to get a call for an interview if your name sounds foreign.

So, he changed his name on his resume to Nick (his parents have called him Nicki his entire life) and BAM...he got call after call for interviews and 3 offers in one week.

They know him as Nick at Apple. :P

Go for it...you should be called whatever you like. If you don't like Terry, there's nothing wrong with telling people to call you T.D. now that there's an opportunity to do so. ;)
prowler323 From: prowler323 Date: July 8th, 2003 03:18 pm (UTC) (Link)
Frankly, I'm in denial that just as I am getting to know you, you're taking off for the cesspool seething with Republicans. So, in that frame of mind, I don't even understand what it is you're asking.
guysterrules From: guysterrules Date: July 8th, 2003 03:54 pm (UTC) (Link)
Who says I'm not a seething Republican?
prowler323 From: prowler323 Date: July 8th, 2003 03:55 pm (UTC) (Link)

Re:

I don't understand the question
explosivo From: explosivo Date: July 8th, 2003 03:20 pm (UTC) (Link)
I've never had a problem with Terry... when I first met Russell, he was clearly Russ... then became Russell, Rusticles, RP... you can be TD, but I will always call you some variation of Ter' (pronounced TARE.)
guysterrules From: guysterrules Date: July 8th, 2003 03:49 pm (UTC) (Link)
Russell = Rusty, Rustoleum, Rusty-Pooperhead, Puddin, Puddin-Tate, Mr. Tate. He's learned to respond to all of those. You are more than welcome to call me an variation of Terry you want.
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guysterrules From: guysterrules Date: July 8th, 2003 03:54 pm (UTC) (Link)
I'm in a trance thinking about Vance doing the antsy dance in his Frenchy underpants. To see it, I wonder if I have a chance?

Thank you. I didn't think about V.D. I did think, however, if someone took a pause and said "T.D., um....."
zombietruckstop From: zombietruckstop Date: July 8th, 2003 04:02 pm (UTC) (Link)
How about Tee? As in "T"?

I worked with a guy who was T.W. - I never knew his real name. We all called him Tee Dub.

I hope I've been helpful.
nancec From: nancec Date: July 8th, 2003 04:16 pm (UTC) (Link)
Definitely acceptable, IMO. But then, I say that as someone who is contemplating doing something similar.

I don't really hate my first name, but I've never really felt like it fit me. I think I could live with shortening my middle name from Linette to Lin, though I hate that spelling.

If you are already comfortable answering to T.D., then I say go for it. And thanks for posing this question. It reminded me that I need to try it myself. :-)
From: umkinda Date: July 8th, 2003 04:38 pm (UTC) (Link)
Definitely change it! That's the whole POINT of moving! Hell, why you're at it, change your name to Buck, or Dakota, or whatever you want.

Abbreviations and slight changes are always par for the course. When I moved to SF, Vince became Vincent. When I moved to LA, Vincent became Vinny. When I move again, I'll just change it to Jordan Lightfoot or something.
explosivo From: explosivo Date: July 8th, 2003 05:09 pm (UTC) (Link)
damn... Luke Ryder is taken... ;)
From: umkinda Date: July 8th, 2003 05:32 pm (UTC) (Link)

Re:

What about Duke Gyder?
cuchulainn From: cuchulainn Date: July 9th, 2003 12:07 am (UTC) (Link)

Aw Fuck It

Swagger into that interview and tell em to call you T-BONE with an emphasis on BONE baby!
raptusanxieux From: raptusanxieux Date: July 9th, 2003 05:11 am (UTC) (Link)
There used to be a store called TD Whitney's around these parts, so I wonder who that famous TD was. They sold glamourous lamps and breakable glass dust collectors and such.
ubermunkey From: ubermunkey Date: July 9th, 2003 07:32 am (UTC) (Link)

name change

let me tell you a story about name changes... lol.

I say go for it. Nothing wrong with a bit of a change up. Each name has a certain energy to it, and if it is a clean start you are interested in that is surely one way to help achieve that end. Now I have only known one Terry in my life and not well at that but TD definately has a different feel to it than Terry. with you it does not come off as pretentious, creepy, or self loathing. It comes off as branching out a bit, or a bit of self creation/exploration. So go for it.
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